The Outer You Reflects the Inner You

Have you ever been around someone in a group setting and suddenly they say something completely out of character or unexpected? And when they realize it, they say or ask something like, “Did my inside voice just come out?” Maybe we have all experienced a moment like that, and probably even have been the ones to let our inside voice come out unexpectedly.

Some of us do a really good job of controlling our words, feelings, and actions when it comes to our ability to stay composed, especially when we may not necessarily agree with those around us. We have the ability to keep our outer selves restrained from saying what might really be on our hearts and minds.

And then there are some of us who completely wear our hearts on our sleeve. We do not have a poker face, so we make our feelings known through what we do and what comes out of our mouths. Some might even say that those of us who fall into this category don’t have a filter, when a thought pops into our minds, we immediately say or act upon what we feel at that moment.

Both types, those who stay calm and can control what they say and feel, as well as those who wear their hearts on their sleeve, are easy enough to understand and recognize. Those who demonstrate restraint are usually very thoughtful and really consider their words wisely before just speaking. And those who don’t hide the way they feel are more direct and to the point, and live life to its fullest with lots of emotion.

Then there are those of us who think we are showing restraint and composure trying to hide our feelings, but our tonality, our expressions, and our body language give us away. Those of us in this group should never play poker. And there are a lot of us who fall into this category, we just don’t see ourselves this way, we think we are fooling others when they can see clearly right through us.

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Written by Michael “Go-To” Norton, XINNIX President, former CEO and Founder at Tramazing, former President of the Zig Ziglar Corporation, and former Executive Vice President of Sandler Corporate Training, Michael Norton has helped companies accelerate their growth by elevating their talent through learning and development programs.

Michael has had the pleasure of working with world-class companies such as Siemens Healthcare, WebMD, 7-Up, Cardinal Health, Cemex, Boral, HPE, Indeed, Lonza, KONE, Evonik, Quest Software, Dell, Anixter, and many more. for 30+ years he has developed, written, delivered, reinforced, and sold sales and sales management training programs that deliver real ROI while fitting into a company’s culture, processes, daily sales workflow, and budget.

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